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About
To see the little things in life, to consciously perceive them and to appreciate them, is the topic of the blog WUNDERPAAR.
The authors write about the important things in the life of people and couples.
They live in Heidelberg, are connected to each other for over a quarter of a century and are familiar with the topic of relationship. They have gained insights and experiences both in their private lives, as well as in their professions as consultants and psychotherapists.
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Articles
Wonder Words: Asking, Thanking and Apologising
Asking, thanking and apologising are wonder words that can miraculously change reality. It is very simple. And yet there is great power in it. You just have to try it, again and again, and the result will amaze you.
Closeness and distance – a children’s song and Corona
In times of Corona, we experience a new quality of closeness and distance. The nursery rhyme „Backe, Backe Kuchen“ (Bake, bake a cake) gave us the idea that it is only through the baking process that something different and new is created, which one would never have suspected before on the basis of the baking ingredients. This is reminiscent of alchemy. Perhaps it is just the same with the relationship: it needs attractiveness, interest, smell, humor, desire, curiosity, openness, and develops only if we „bake“ them.
Love is a task for two people
In these days it is worth reading Alfred Adler again. Adler stimulates and calms at the same time; one learns a lot about oneself and about others. Here are a few thoughts on the subject of love is a task for two people, from his book „What life should mean to you“
Love is a task for two people with the common goal of being happy. Or in other words, only when we have the feeling of being useful to others do we feel happy and secure.
Trouvailles #01 „What Life Should Mean to You“ from Alfred Adler 1931
It is a pleasure to read Alfred Adler again. In a nutshell: All problems are interpersonal problems. And we can change them and ourselves at any time. We have all the skills, we just need the courage.
Especially attractive and important is the life’s work of love. What do we live for? Love and marriage is a way of
working together for the good of both parties and also for the good of humanity.
The relationship between a couple from the point of view of two roses
We all want a loving relationship with our partner, but life is not always easy for couples. So we have asked the two rose bushes in front of our house how they manage their living closely together. Read the 7 Rose Tips for a successful relationship.
The Power of Inner Images and First Love
The power of inner images is effective and strong. It moves us to do and act in all sorts of ways. For better or for worse. That is why it is helpful from time to time to become aware of this power. And to turn to it in a friendly way.
The picture of a sculpture from the Naumburg/Saale cathedral attracted us so much that we set out to meet the most beautiful woman of the Middle Ages.
The Wartburg and why we should protect love
Protecting love is more necessary today than ever. Love is threatened by various dangers and not everyone is allowed to escape to a safe Wartburg.
Here we would like to share with you our experiences with the history and stories of our trip to Eastern Germany. The first stage of our trip takes us to Eisenach. What protecting love has to do with the Wartburg.
From Stone Age with love – we are all unique
The encounter with the archaeological finds from the Neolithic teaches us to look at what is essential and what survives. Even today, the Stone Age sends love greetings to us as if it were saying, hey, you are unique.
The magic of the new beginning
„Everything is new in May, makes the soul fresh and free …“, so the beginning of an ancient german folk song. An ode to the spring awakening. The old year has passed. One feels freed from the winter cold and the dark days, „after the winter’s night“. It seems as if everything is new and the soul feels fresh and free: from the magic of the new beginning in nature and in mind. And the pleasure of gardening.
Both are right – and then?
Science has determined that we are all brain-wired individually. Each in his own way. That’s good. And a huge challenge for couples: because both are right – and then what?
We try to offer a few solutions.
Why inequality is good for couples
The celebration of Queen Elizabeth and Prince Phillip’s 70-year marriage is a good example of how a famous couple deals very successfully with inequality in marriage.
Arithmetics for couples: aren’t you more than two?
In this blog we offer a look on the communication of the inner voices of the two.
Knowing that voices are just words in our minds, we are free to choose. There is always the chance to avoid the judging voices.
Snippet: Touching Press Picture
Our first snippet is about the touching press picture of our newly elected President. At the summit of his political career he is giving the honor to his beaming mother; what a strong message.
The Power of Praise
Our blog is about the balance of praising and criticizing. Happy couples know: if you want to reach your partner’s ear, start with a praise.
It comes for free, works like witchcraft, and builds up the basis for a better understanding. Appreciating and understanding is always helpful to start a more satisfying relationship.
Like the saying: what goes around, comes around.
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The dark days – why we fear them and still need them
Practicing a little bit of self-examination from time to time might be helpful. That`s what we need the dark days for. They have an indwelling beauty that opens up to us, when we appreciate them.
Dark and quiet winter days teach us the nature of life: The transience and uniqueness of all existence.
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